Love and Matters of the Heart with Baby Blinks
Firstly, may I sincerely apologize for my late posting today. It was very unavoidable.
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The only time I would tell someone to forgive their BF for cheating is if the guy seemed really remorseful and realized that he made a huge mistake. And honestly, from what you've said, it doesn't sound like your boyfriend realizes that he did something wrong. The fact that he is still trying to deny what he did is proof of that. If he can’t man up and admit that he really did cheat on you, then he doesn't deserve your forgiveness. All that shows is that he probably doesn't think what he did was that bad – and there’s a huge possibility he could do it again.
In this case, it’s better to end things. Just by cheating on you alone, your boyfriend was showing you major disrespect. But letting it happen in your own room and with your classmate? That’s a whole other level of disrespect, girl. There’s nothing okay about what he did. Do you really want to be with someone who could betray you that badly?
Listen, I know you think your BF shows you that he cares – but cheating on you and sexing a girl/classmate in your room shows the complete opposite. Of course he doesn't want to lose you – you’re awesome and special. But this dude definitely does not deserve you. You deserve someone who wouldn't lie to you, disrespect you or completely betray you.
Do yourself a favor and get rid of this immature guy. There’s a huge chance that he might cheat on you again, and I know you’re going to have trouble trusting him. Don’t let anyone treat you that badly – you’ll find someone in the future who truly does care about you and love you. Until then, you’re better off single then staying with this guy.
That's my opinion. You guys have the best of opinions. So advice General. That guy is really suffering.
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Blinks,Baby Blinks Opinion: Is it okay to forgive someone for cheating? Yes, in certain situations. Would I advise you to forgive your boyfriend for cheating? Honestly, NOOOOO!. I know that’s probably not the advice you were looking for, but hear me out.
I wanted to know if it is okay to forgive my boyfriend for cheating on me. He had sex with my classmate in my room while I wasn't around. It hurts me so much that he did this, yet he still denies it. He tell me nothing serious really happened. But It was very clear to me. Two sachets of condoms were missing in my rack. Secondly, I got them sweating like goats in a cold evening.
I love him a lot and I never thought he would do something like this to me. Every day he shows me how much he cares for me and loves me. So when I found out, it broke me to pieces. Now when I look at him, I just imagine him with that other girl. What should I do? Please help me.
The only time I would tell someone to forgive their BF for cheating is if the guy seemed really remorseful and realized that he made a huge mistake. And honestly, from what you've said, it doesn't sound like your boyfriend realizes that he did something wrong. The fact that he is still trying to deny what he did is proof of that. If he can’t man up and admit that he really did cheat on you, then he doesn't deserve your forgiveness. All that shows is that he probably doesn't think what he did was that bad – and there’s a huge possibility he could do it again.
In this case, it’s better to end things. Just by cheating on you alone, your boyfriend was showing you major disrespect. But letting it happen in your own room and with your classmate? That’s a whole other level of disrespect, girl. There’s nothing okay about what he did. Do you really want to be with someone who could betray you that badly?
Listen, I know you think your BF shows you that he cares – but cheating on you and sexing a girl/classmate in your room shows the complete opposite. Of course he doesn't want to lose you – you’re awesome and special. But this dude definitely does not deserve you. You deserve someone who wouldn't lie to you, disrespect you or completely betray you.
Do yourself a favor and get rid of this immature guy. There’s a huge chance that he might cheat on you again, and I know you’re going to have trouble trusting him. Don’t let anyone treat you that badly – you’ll find someone in the future who truly does care about you and love you. Until then, you’re better off single then staying with this guy.
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1) First of all CALM DOWN
2) Stop spying on your partner
3) Focus on your work and finances
4) Give yourself time to heal get along with your friends
5) Your partner is weak in emotions so regaining trust is not trustworthy option
6) Find another partner
7) If you can’t find another partner, then read below:
I had similar cheating experience with my boyfriend. So I had no choice but to do a research to understand from his mind why he did it. My boyfriend was a smarter jerk and knows that it will be his loss if we get separated. After 1 years of drama and 2 years of pain, it took me 3 long years to come out of my safety zone and try to feel and think the way cheaters feel and think. I started thinking and doing the same thing what he had been doing. So basically I understood that they do not want to compromise with what they have, they are trying to cherish life and enjoy it to the fullest. I have cheated multiple times now and I liked the thrill, the variety and the comfort I received. Well it always does not work with all your sex partners but sometime you hit jackpot. But I loved it. Now I can understand how my bf thinks and he is very jealous because he is not able to find good sex partners while I have become a pro in it. He has to settle with the ugly one’s while I rock on with the genuine, good looking guys. The transition was not easy and it took me very long time. But now I love the new me. Remember life is all about evolution, break the barrier and come out of it. You will love yourself, you will feel more confident and most of all free. And ofcourse deny all accusations of cheating by anyone, just like your partner does, never agree that you cheated even if you got caught just make some excuses. Its a done deal – take it or leave it and stick to it!