My parents hate my boyfriend
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We'll see what Christine says in a moment, but my advice to you is simply to take no sudden decisions. For the next few months, just see how things go. Any precipitate action - such as running off with the guy, or getting married, or getting pregnant - could have all sorts of bad consequences. So just 'cool' things for a bit. Best wishes.
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I am in a very loving relationship with a man who cares about me a great deal. He is 26 – which is seven years older than me -- but the age difference seems to bear no great significance. The problem is that my parents hate him with a vengeance because they believe him to be in a lower class to myself. Also, I admit that now and again he does drink too much but he is in no way an alcoholic. However, my parents are using this as a weapon against our relationship and it is making me very unhappy.
I rely on my parents completely as I am a student and I love them a great deal – so I do not want to fall out with them as I respect them too much.Blinks Opinion: I'm so sorry to hear about this. It's a common situation, particularly in families where class, or is very important.
What can I do about my situation?
We'll see what Christine says in a moment, but my advice to you is simply to take no sudden decisions. For the next few months, just see how things go. Any precipitate action - such as running off with the guy, or getting married, or getting pregnant - could have all sorts of bad consequences. So just 'cool' things for a bit. Best wishes.
Please lets advice her, it cost nothing. Thanks
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that – also you can't afford for this to happen, financially.
Believe me, if your relationship is a lasting one it will survive, even if you don't progress it too vigorously for a while. My advice would be to keep your man and your parents entirely separate.
I also strongly urge you to finish your studies. Once you're well educated and properly qualified, you'll have a lot more freedom. Also, to be quite honest, I'm a bit concerned about your man's drinking – so must you be, or you wouldn't have mentioned it. Plenty of women fall in love with guys who drink too much. In loads of cases the guy calms down and starts drinking less and matures and settles. But of course some people have a real problem with drink - and I would not advise anyone of
either gender to enter a long-term relationship knowing that their partner has a drink problem.